How ambitious moms really rise (without burning out)

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I’ve paid an invisible career penalty after giving birth… like all high-performing moms do. 💔

The day before a presentation (one that could close a major deal), my toddler spiked a fever.

I barely slept that night.

I knew I’d have to present to senior leadership the next morning (on two hours of sleep and no childcare).

I was torn in two directions:

And even though I showed up on the call, inside, I felt fractured.

Like I was failing at everything all at once.

This wasn’t just a one-off emotion. I’ve felt this paralysis time and again since having my babies.

And I realized it wasn’t random, it’s actually a cycle that I now call the Presence Failure Loop.

Stress hijacks your nervous system → you push through anyway → you don’t feel fully present anywhere → the guilt eats away at your confidence → more stress → and the loop continues.

Once I named it, I started seeing it everywhere: in myself, in the women I coach, in moms who are leading at the highest levels while silently carrying this load.

And the hardest part? No one else can see it.

To the outside world, you look fine. You’re “keeping it together.”

But inside, you’re stretched so thin you’re not sure how long you can keep going like this.

My breaking point came on my daughter’s 2nd birthday. It was supposed to be a happy day.

But I broke down in tears. Overwhelmed. Drained.

That was the moment I knew something had to change.

So I started experimenting with small ways to break the loop.

Not perfect solutions. Not magic time hacks.

Just tiny practices that gave me back a sense of presence, enough to feel like me again.

When I feel my chest tighten or my jaw clench, I take a quick pause (either three deep breaths or naming five things I see in the room).

These tiny resets calm my nervous system so I can respond, not react.

I’ve stopped giving my best hours to email and admin. Now, my peak energy goes to the things that matter most: strategy, high-stakes meetings, and time with my kids.

Everything else gets my “good enough” energy.

As a type-A achiever, I’ve spent years trying to control every detail and “do it right.” But perfection usually comes at the cost of peace.

I’ve been learning to let go and choose connection over control.

These are the small ways I’ve been breaking the Presence Failure Loop.

And they’ve worked for other women, too.

Yina, Sr. Product Manager at Autodesk, shares,

That’s why I’m hosting a new (free) workshop just for high-performing moms like you.

Because you don’t need more hours.

You need a system that helps you rise in your career without losing yourself at home.

Sept 23 at 5 PM PT / 8 PM ET
Sept 24 at 12 PM PT / 3 PM ET

Whether you are gunning for that next role or want recognition from leadership, you’ll leave with practical tools, powerful insights, and a reminder that you're not the only one trying to make it all work.

And if you’re wondering if it really works, here’s what Priya, Marketing Lead at Uber, shared:

I can’t wait for you to have this. Come join us.

You’ll leave lighter, clearer, and reminded that you’re not alone.

With you in this ❤️
Shivani

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